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Every guy has had the unfortunate incident where he had his orgasm before his girlfriend had hers. It can be a very frustrating experience for both people involved, but it doesn’t have to be. There are plenty of ways to please your partner without using your erect penis. There are lots of things you can do with your hands, mouth, or toys. Think of it as naughtier foreplay.

Oral sex is a great way to finish the job! When you perform cunnilingus on her, use your mouth and your hands- This will maximize her pleasure. Listen to the sounds she makes while you are doing it, that will let you know what she likes. Penetrate her with your fingers while you use your tongue to stimulate her clitoris.

Another way to get her off is to use sex toys such as a dildo or a vibrator. You can get creative with this one, because if you have multiple toys, you can use more than one at the same time. All the while, you can still give her head or stimulate her many other erogenous zones.

If your girlfriend is into watching adult videos, then turn one on for her, because it will heighten her state of arousal and increase her chances of achieving an orgasm. If you and your girlfriend have not included adult videos into your sex lives, then see my post below about how to get her to watch them with you. They would be a fantastic addition to your sex lives! If she’s not into watching those types of videos, then try talking dirty to her while doing some [or all] of the above suggestions. Good luck!

If you are a man that has fantasies about having a sexual adventure with two women, then there are some things you should know before taking the plunge. Although it may sound silly, there are some basic rules that you must follow if you wish to have a successful threesome with your girlfriend or wife. These rules are in no particular order. We will begin with the issue of bringing-it-up.

Chances are, your girlfriend has hinted at having an intimate experience with you and another person already. If this is the case, then do not bring up the issue; let her mention it, and then just go with it. In other words, if you are a good listener, then you probably will not have to make any suggestions at all. When she does bring it up, be cautious about sounding too eager so that she knows that she is in control.

Do not be selfish! Nobody likes to feel like their personal desires are being railroaded so that somebody else can get theirs. Although everybody is participating for their own personal enjoyment, it is best to keep your focus on pleasing the other parties involved. If you accommodate their desires, it will be well worth it. Because if you make it clear that you are genuinely interested in pleasing the other two parties more than yourself, they will graciously and generously pay you back.

Before you invite a third party into your bedroom, you have to set rules regarding what is forbidden. For example, if you and your female partner include another female, then your girlfriend may prohibit you from penetrating the other female. This is a very touchy issue, and if you break the rules, the whole experience could come to a grinding halt or worse, you may wind up losing some of your girlfriends trust and never have another threesome. Think about if you had a threesome with your girlfriend and another man; you would probably want to set some ground rules regarding his behavior.

Distance is imperative to having a successful threesome, and is crucial to having more threesome experiences in the future. You and your partner must remember at all times that you are having an experience with a third party, not a relationship! At moments it will feel impossible to keep a cool distance, but if you cannot keep the third person at an emotional distance then you run the risk of damaging your relationship. Intimate experiences cause emotional connections to form. You may have to mitigate the development of these emotional bonds by not-having regular experiences with a third person.

Always practice safe sex! This can be a bit tricky when you are simultaneously with more than one partner. Do not use the same condom with your girlfriend and the third person, because then you may be putting your girlfriend in harm’s way. The only way to be safe in a threesome is to use several condoms- every time that you switch your focus from one person to the other. It may seem tedious, but safety is more important than convenience, and your partners will appreciate your concern for their safety.

Do not attempt to be in charge. Many men jump into a threesome thinking that the whole event is about their personal pleasure, and that they are the captain of the ship. Nothing could be further from the truth. A threesome is about pleasing everybody involved, and it must either be; democratic, or controlled by the women that are involved. This is because you may accidentally request that they do something that makes them uncomfortable or may seem like a jerk because you are telling everybody what to do. Also, remember to move at your girlfriend’s pace, so as not to make her feel uncomfortable by rushing into experiences that are new to her.

You may have a girl in mind that you would love to include in a threesome with you and your girlfriend, but that will prevent the threesome from ever happening. If you recommend a girl to your girlfriend, she will probably take this as a pathetic attempt at asking for permission to cheat on her- and it is. Let your girlfriend make the selection, because if you select somebody or are too pushy, she will begin to think that the whole idea is about you hooking up with another girl.

If you follow these basic guidelines, then you will greatly increase the likelihood of having a successful threesome with your girlfriend or wife. Remember that you must discuss your plans and intentions at length before doing anything, and your significant other may not be as restrictive as the rules described above. But, if she is not assertive and you do not know how she feels, then play on the safe side and do not push her boundaries.

Although in your everyday life it is not okay to bite people under any circumstances, it can add loads of excitement to your love life. You must know a few things in order to incorporate biting or nibbling into your sex-life; what kind of biting is okay, and where it is okay to bite, and when it is okay to bite.

There are two distinct types of biting: biting and nibbling. Biting is exactly what it sounds like, and it should hurt a little bit, and nibbling is just a gentle form of biting. You can bite your partner in some areas, and you can nibble on her in other areas. For example, your partner may permit you to nibble on her ears or toes, but you cannot bite her ears and toes. Her body has many erogenous zones that can be nibbled on to intensify her state of arousal. As a general rule, it is safe to nibble/bite any place that you would kiss her. For example, you can nibble on her lips, inner thighs, nipples, ear, neck, etc. There are some exceptions; you may kiss her feet and nose, but you would never bite her feet or nose. Think before biting!

To safely bite or nibble, try the tooth-to-lip method at first. This means that you do not bite your partner like you would bite your food, i.e. tooth-to-tooth. Instead, try folding your lower lip over your lower teeth and perform a tooth-to-lip bite. It can have the same effect without the potential of really hurting your partner. Be careful with this method because if you bite too hard you can bite your lip. When you can safely control your biting then move on to regular tooth-to-tooth biting.

The last point to address is when it is okay to bite. Your partner may indicate that she wishes to involve some pain with her pleasure by raking her nails across your back, biting you first, slapping you, etc. However, if she does not initiate the infliction of pain, then you should introduce it with caution, because she may find it to be nothing more than pain without any added pleasure. Try dragging your teeth across her skin before going through with an actual bite. Pay attention to her face and the sounds she makes too, because she will let you know if she does, or does not, like what you are doing.

Anal-intercourse is a very enjoyable experience for many men, but convincing a girlfriend to do it with them can be very challenging. Before you decide to just go-for-it when you are with her, it would be wise to discuss it with her beforehand. She may be open to some ideas, and not open to others. Wail until she has established her boundaries and comfort level before you go ahead with any wild, independent attempts.

A lot of women have tried it before, and found it to be a painful experience, and have since decided to never do it again. Because the bodily region is packed with nerve-endings, it is very sensitive; improper stimulation can result in incredible pain or mind-blowing pleasure. In order to enjoy it, you have to make sure of a few things; you have talked it over beforehand, she is comfortable, and you have taken the proper measures to make the experience pleasurable.

Some women are just uninterested due to either a bad previous experience, or they flat-out do not enjoy it. If you really want to try it with her, and she is not interested, you need to find out the cause to determine if the issue is worth pursuing. But, you must not be pushy because nobody likes being pressured into doing something that they do not want to do. If you consider yourself to be liberated in the sense that you are interested in trying new, exciting things, then you may let her know that you are open to the idea of her penetrating you as well with her fingers or a toy. Who knows? You may enjoy it as well.

To make her comfortable, you will have to get her properly aroused before doing anything new and potentially uncomfortable, which means that you will have to use lots of foreplay to set the mood. And, to ensure her satisfaction when you do go for it, use sufficient lubrication (use a lot) and begin with a finger, or an adult-toy to see how she responds before proceeding to full-on anal-intercourse. Proceed to the next level, if and only if she says that it is okay; and when you do proceed, take it slow!

She may have concerns with cleanliness as well. To address her concerns about dirtiness, insist that you clean up well beforehand, lay down throwaway sheets, and maybe consider having the entire experience in the shower. It may not be the most comfortable setting, but it is a good starting point.

Many men would love it if their female partner was interested in watching adult videos with them, but they are afraid to ask, because they are scared of how she might respond. The truth is that many women enjoy adult videos just as much as men, or at least open to the idea of trying them out- if they have not already. The problem that most men have is that they make their partners feel like watching them is about watching other women. If make the point clear that it is not about cheating-with-a-video, then your partner will be much more receptive to the idea.

The first step is letting her know that you are interested in watching a video with her, and that you are not interested in watching the videos for the purpose of seeing other women. Make it clear that you are interested in getting new ideas of positions to use with her. One of the best ways to introduce this idea is by purchasing an erotica book or video, on the softer side, e.g. Kama Sutra to watch together. If this goes over well, and you have a mutual inclination towards taking it to the next level, then move on to the next step.

The second step is to watch a safe, premium cable TV video, like you see late at night on Cinemax or HBO. These are very couple-oriented, and are not graphic at all. Most people would not find these late-night shows offensive, so they are pretty safe if the erotica video/book went over well. They can be stumbled-upon when channel surfing, so you can very easily bring them into discussion by ‘accidentally’ turning them on when you watch television together. If she likes it, and you have successfully made the transition to these video, and your experiences together are intensifying as a result, then it is time to go all the way.

The third and final step is to pick out an adult video at a store, or online. Find videos that are geared towards couples, i.e. not degrading to women. Videos are becoming more couple-oriented, now that video makers are discovering how many women enjoy them as well, but there are still a lot of terribly offensive ones out there, so be careful. Also, you will have a terrible experience watching a video with her if she offended, and she will probably not be interested in watching videos with you again in the future. To play it safe, you should probably let her pick the video the first time, and you should go along with whatever she picks. Wait until the second time you watch a video together to voice your opinion.

If you have successfully made the transition to watching videos together, congratulations! A few things to keep in mind are; never suggest any degrading videos (they are not enjoyable anyways), focus on her, do not try to watch them all the time, do not just watch the videos with her- get interactive by trying out some of the things in the videos while you watch them.

Women Must Achieve and Orgasm to Enjoy Intercourse
Women do not have to achieve an orgasm to enjoy sexual intercourse. Do not take this as an insistence to ignore your partner’s needs, but many women enjoy the pleasure of intercourse and the emotional connection with their partner as much as they enjoy the actual climax. This is not to say that women would not love to reach climax every time they are with their partner, but it is to say that women’s satisfaction is not contingent upon consistent and frequent climaxing.

Males and Females Feel it the Same Way
The female orgasm is not always similar to the male orgasm, and many females experience them without knowing it. The common concept of a female climax involves the contraction of the pelvic floor muscles with an overwhelming feeling of euphoria- just like men. However, sometimes the event goes unnoticed because it is very subtle, and afterwards she feels very relaxed- similar to the way she feels after the explosive type that we are all familiar with.

Your Experience is What Gets the Job Done
The most important pieces of the puzzle are making your female partner comfortable and relaxed, and paying-attention/attending to her needs. Although your experience with other women will undoubtedly help you please your partner, it is not the most important part. You must take your time and become familiar with your partner’s particular needs. And, you must not make her feel like she must reach climax because that will raise the bar so high that you will probably both feel performance anxiety- and probably disappointment afterwards. Another point to make regarding your performance is that if she is not relaxed and comfortable, you will probably not be able to please her no matter how ‘good’ you are.

Size Matters Most
Size is not the most important part! Like you have probably heard a million times before, it is not how big it is, it is how you use it. This is absolutely true! Only the first four inches inside a woman’s vagina is particularly sensitive. Beyond that depth, sensitivity is greatly diminished. In fact, a huge member may result in painful intercourse. The adult industry makes men feel inadequate, and gives them the wrong idea about women’s needs. Girth is more important than length because of the increased contact with the clitoris. This is because most women do not reach climax through vaginal contact alone. In fact, the vaginal orgasm is a very infrequent occurrence- most are achieved through clitoral stimulation.

There are many great places to sneak off with your partner and have a quickie; as many as you could possibly imagine. This article is by no means, comprehensive. In this article, we will take a look at five of the most popular and best places to do it. We will start with the car as our first selection.

Car
Your car is probably the most flexible place to have a quickie, because you can park your car anywhere that you want. Finding a private place can take a long time, but you cannot lose in your car, because you can always move if you find out that you do not have as much privacy as you want. The best places to have a quickie in a car are in a park, drive-in theater, or in a rural area where there is not much traffic. If you want to have some fun without stopping the car, you can always convince her to pleasure you with her hands or mouth while you drive, and you can simultaneously pleasure her with a free hand.

Closet/Shower
The closet is a great place to disappear for a few minutes. Nobody will guess where you have run off to, in the amount of time it takes to have a quickie. The limiting factor of the closet is the amount of space you have to move around, so you will be limited to certain positions. The shower is similar to a closet in that you will have relative privacy and you will probably not be found. However, a shower has the added luxury of having more space to move around. If you are at a party, the closet and shower are good choices if you are in a hurry.

Movie Theater
The movie theater is the classic public place to get down and dirty. Oral is probably your best bet, unless you are comfortable having her sit on your lap, and running the risk of getting caught. Try to plan ahead and find a theater where the arm rest between the seats folds up so that you can reach each other. Use a jacket or coat to cover-up so that nobody can see what you are doing. And, make sure you go see a movie that is not very popular so that there are not a lot of people in the theater.

Office
A quickie in the office is probably the most dangerous, because you run the risk of losing your job, as well as getting some kind of ticket. In an office, there are many places you can do it; on your desk, under your desk, storage room/closet, etc. If you take turns going under the desk, the person that is receiving can be the lookout person so that you do not get caught- this is probably the safest way to have a quickie in the office. An office hookup also has the added risk of possibly getting involved with a co-worker. This can be a good and a bad thing. It can be great for getting some action on a regular basis when you are at work, but it can be a problem if things do not work out well.

Fitting Room
Every department store has fitting rooms in their clothing section. Some are more private than others, and some have a fitting room attendant, and some do not. Find a store that does not have attendants or male/female separate fitting rooms, so as not to arouse suspicion. You should both enter the fitting room at different times. Also, check for security cameras, and try to be very quiet. When you leave the fitting room, make sure that you leave at separate times.

There are many, many adult toys out on the market nowadays and it can be difficult to make a decision which ones, if any, are right for you. Because they tend to be expensive products, it is a good idea to read about them and dig through the product reviews before making a purchase. In this article we will take a look at some of the less-common adult toys and what they are used for.

The first product that we are going to talk about is the penis ring. This product is simply a ring, like a rubber band, that goes around the base of the penis shaft. The primary function of the ring is to slow the flow of blood out of the erect organ, with the ultimate goal of maintaining an erection for a longer time. Some of the many variations on this product include additional functions such as; vibration (for clitoral stimulation), testicular restraint (to intensify orgasm), etc.

The next product that we are going to discuss is the anal-plug. Basically, a butt-plug is a toy that is designed to be inserted into the rectum for sexual pleasure. Anal plugs tend to be shorter than dildos and have a flared head. This is because the rectum is so close to the sigmoid colon, and they are designed so that they do not accidentally travel up into the bowel. Butt-plugs are designed to simulate the sensations experienced during anal sex. There are many variations on this product as well, with some having a slight curve in order to reach the prostate gland in men.

A product similar to the butt-plug is anal beads. Anal beads are a string of beads that are attached together, that are designed to be inserted into the anus and removed at varying speeds. The purpose of the beads is to stimulate the sphincter muscle while experiencing an orgasm. Anal beads increase the intensity of an orgasm.

The next product that we are going to look at is a vaginal toy, called pleasure balls. Pleasure balls are weighted balls that are designed to be inserted into the vagina. Holding these balls in the vagina requires that the vaginal muscles contract, and by doing so, blood rushes to the bodily region and thus heightens the state of arousal. Additionally, if pleasure balls are worn during intercourse, they add more fullness to the vagina and increase the pleasure.

The final product is not technically a toy, but it is worth mentioning because it is a very useful product. For men with issues related to premature ejaculation, there is a product on the market that is designed to desensitize the penis, thus leading to a longer lasting performance. The product is sold with many different names, and in many different forms such as; cream, spray, inside condoms, etc.

Many people are interested in having a casual sexual encounter with a stranger. These types of encounters are often referred to as n.s.a. (no-strings-attached). The trouble with these types of hookups is that it is difficult to find a reliable resource for meeting partners. Many of the places to meet people are online, and because there are so many of them, the task of finding a partner can be daunting.

You must create an online identity/persona that you will use to shop yourself around to potential partners. And, because there are so many websites dedicated to hooking up with casual partners, it is a good idea to create profiles on several sites at the same time. Make sure that your profile is enticing, because you only get one chance at a first impression.

After you have created a profile, start searching through other member profiles and initiate contact. It truly is a numbers game, and it is only a matter of time before you find somebody with whom you share a mutual attraction. So, do not hesitate to contact as many people as you wish. After you find somebody and the mutual attraction is established, the next step is to move on to finding a arranging safe meeting place.

For a casual encounter, it is best to meet in a very public place, like a coffee shop or a bar, before you go anywhere private. In fact, it is probably a good idea to do this all of the time- it is always better to play it safe. One more thing to remember is that if you want your encounter to remain casual, then you must remember to keep a safe emotional distance from one another.

Another great way to have a casual encounter without the risk of meeting up with a stranger or having sex with a person of questionable safety, phone sex is a great alternative. Phone sex is just as safe as masturbation and has the added thrill of sharing the experience with another person, as a bonus; you can fulfill your secret fantasies without the potential repercussions of acting them out.

In this article, we will take a look at a few pieces of advice that will assist a man in bringing his female partner to orgasm when having sex.

The first thing that you can do to increase the chances of bring your partner to orgasm is the proper use of foreplay. Before you go straight to the physical foreplay, verbal play is very important as well. Verbally caress your partner by telling her how beautiful she is and when she starts to get charged up, start telling her what you want to do with her sexually. When the tension has built up, then move onto physical foreplay, by gently touching her sensitive areas such as her; hands, fingers, mouth, feet, and toes.

Sexual foreplay is also a great way to help your partner have an orgasm. Try performing oral sex on your partner, and take the time to rub her erogenous zones, e.g. nipples, thighs, butt, and anus (ask her first). This will heighten her sexual experience, and will help her completely relax.

Make sure that you do not seem too eager for her to climax, because the added pressure of expectation will probably get in the way of your success. Let her know that you have all the time in the world for her, and that you plan on taking all the time in the world to please her. When she is relaxed, the chances of her achieving orgasm are also much greater.